"I've learned something from this about how to be kind to people who have been hurt [...]"
Okay, here's the change:
"I've learned something from this about how to be kind to people I have hurt [...]"
It's a small but important change.
Years ago, I inadvertently insulted somebody. I certainly didn't mean to. I was trying to be funny and it failed miserably. I like the person that I insulted.
A big step was to admit that I was sorry that I insulted him. Not that I was sorry that he misinterpreted what I meant. Not that I was sorry that he was insulted. I was sorry that I insulted him.
I kept holding on to those other two things--I didn't really mean to do anything bad, it just kind of happened. It's his fault for misinterpreting. I'm not the bad guy here. It's not my fault.
But I was the bad guy. It was my fault. Sure, maybe I didn't mean to, but I insulted him. It wasn't something that "just happened." It wasn't his fault for misinterpreting what I said. It was me. I did it. And I needed to acknowledge that it was my actions that caused the problem.
Because until you acknowledge that you can hurt people, you can't really understand the need to stop doing it.
What the fuck? He literally said "Sometimes I lost my temper because I didn't have the social skills to avoid it," Stallman adds. "Some people could cope with this; others were hurt. I apologize to each of them. Please direct your criticism at me, not at the Free Software Foundation."
He literally is acknowledging that he hurt others and apologized. What is wrong with people? All of the sudden everyone is a saint and requires everyone else to be one too. I hate to break it to everyone: but you are not perfe
Take Responsibility -- Me, I (Score:3)
This, in the summary, caught my eye:
"I've learned something from this about how to be kind to people who have been hurt [...]"
Okay, here's the change:
"I've learned something from this about how to be kind to people I have hurt [...]"
It's a small but important change.
Years ago, I inadvertently insulted somebody. I certainly didn't mean to. I was trying to be funny and it failed miserably. I like the person that I insulted.
A big step was to admit that I was sorry that I insulted him. Not that I was sorry that he misinterpreted what I meant. Not that I was sorry that he was insulted. I was sorry that I insulted him.
I kept holding on to those other two things--I didn't really mean to do anything bad, it just kind of happened. It's his fault for misinterpreting. I'm not the bad guy here. It's not my fault.
But I was the bad guy. It was my fault. Sure, maybe I didn't mean to, but I insulted him. It wasn't something that "just happened." It wasn't his fault for misinterpreting what I said. It was me. I did it. And I needed to acknowledge that it was my actions that caused the problem.
Because until you acknowledge that you can hurt people, you can't really understand the need to stop doing it.
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He literally is acknowledging that he hurt others and apologized. What is wrong with people? All of the sudden everyone is a saint and requires everyone else to be one too. I hate to break it to everyone: but you are not perfe
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Yeah...no.