Hope for the Valley's Single Men 171
Anonymous Coward writes "ZDNN is running an article about how a good geek is hard to find. " The American Singles group is holding its annual convention in the Valley, because of the sheer amount of good men that are availible. Dear Lord.
Re:not this thread again! (Score:1)
I think it is pretty clear what kind of woman they are targetting with language like that.
Re:Geek wife anybody? (Score:1)
Re:A solid contradiction? (Score:1)
try reading it again.
Attitude is the important thing (Score:1)
Of course, I'm not a geek guy, so I suppose I can't really speak for them, but I know that's what I want out of a boyfriend.
Re:Company Perks? (Score:1)
I doubt internal dating services would do that much good.
They can't guarantee you a spouse.
Is that what people want anyway, though it often comes
across as the focus of many so called "dating services",
whatever the media.
Things tend to divide between thinly disguised prostitution
and "try to get people married" (which may in some cases
be much the same as the former.)
Ummm.. (Score:1)
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Kyle R. Rose, MIT LCS
Re:And how do these women expect to attract a geek (Score:1)
But that doesn't matter. Why? Because the geek men outnumber the geek girls by at least 5:1, and probably more like 10:1. Which means that at least 80% of the geek guys are going to have to "settle" for someone other than a geek girl (at least in the sense that you mean it here).
This isn't necessarily a bad thing, mind you. One needn't be totally into something to appreciate and support someone else's interest in it.
There are some days that I wish my Significant Other (tm) shared my interest in computers. But given all her other wonderful qualities, I think I can live without it.
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The real story (Score:1)
...but that's it. Don't expect dates or anything like that. Just expect to get used for what you know, nothing else.
Ok, how about a real solution people... (Score:1)
So what SHOULD we do? I propose we find a spot to claim for geeks in the Bay Area...a geek hangout if you will. I was thinking somewhere in San Jose or Palo Alto. I'd *LOVE* to hear some ideas.
And how do these women expect to attract a geek? (Score:4)
Sure they may have looks - maybe - and they may be women, perhaps for some lonely man that may be enough, but what is a geek man looking for?
And what about the language barrier, she speaks Martha Stewart, he speaks in C, C++, Perl, VB, and Java.
I know exactly what a geek man wants because as I geek girl I want the same thing.
A bit of understanding when he works 18 hours straight on debugging on little bit of code, and is at his wits end. He smells of sweat, and is still in the same clothes he put on a couple of days ago. He is wrestling with Gollith, he is strong, he does not have time for that little cocktail party, or to anwer whether or not mustard yellow would be a nice color for the bathroom. He wants to know that you understand, and care about him, and you think he is intellegent even if he can't find the logical error in that nasty bit of code.
What happens if the cute couple's aniversary comes in the same week that a project is due. The project is more important - a non geek woman may not understand that.
Perhaps these girls should prep themselves with a few programming classes, I recomend C.
Men find C very sexy.
C is just so versitile, with a bit of training in C, you can figure out Perl and C++, and once you have c++, you can figure out java with ease, and perhaps then they can understand a bit more of what the geek man is saying.
He's so cute when he's implementing a hash table!
He's so sexy when he uses a stack, just look at that smile on his face when he pops and item off of the stack, he's like a kid in a candy store!
I digress.
Just my opinion, but after a long, and I mean long day, don't you think the geek man would like a girlfriend who understands what her boyfriend is saying, instead of a girlfriend who stare blankly and then proceeds to ask if she should rag roll the living room walls.
Perhaps not all geek men want a geek girl, but I am sure almost every geek man would prefer an intellegent woman, who understand computers and is not afraid of them, or worse yet ignorant of them.
It is also very important the prospective mate understand that work is involved, and sometimes to leave work is to leave a train of thought behind at risk of losing it. A geek man may not be around much, but not to worry, the computer is not your competition, you could never compete with the computer.
I found myself a geek man, and although he's a network guy, and I am a programmer, we speak the same language.
Sex and the single geek (Score:2)
I guess what I'm saying is, don't bother going to pickup joints or specific Places Where Singles Go looking for geeks because on the whole, you won't find them there. After all, why would you want to waste time in some singles bar when there's hacking to be done? This is probably a fault of the geek personality, but elementary human mating rituals can be as bewildering to your average geek as sendmail.cf is to a non-geek - often it's just not apparent where to start.
The best bet if you really want to grab a geek is to be one yourself. Either that or become one, but I think it might be a bit of a culture shock...
(Besides, here's a little secret that the article's author missed. We aren't all that rich - don't go looking around universities for rich geeks, 'cuz you won't find any)
Mike
Re:those poor women (Score:1)
> And being that I'm a geekgrrl, I imagine it wouldn't be *too* hard.
Perhaps I'm operating under a misguided perception here, but my impression is that there are an awful lot more male suitors for every female. Of course that could because I'm in computers on a college campus. Dunno.
What do the rest of you think? Do you ever feel like you're one of hundreds of guys competing for the same prize?
Duh (Score:1)
YeahYA! (Score:1)
Re:Talk about lack of research (Score:2)
Ohh... to Geek (Score:1)
Languages: ASP, HTML,VB, PERL....
Enjoys:
-long walks ont he beach
-Horse back riding
-Notepad
-WinVI
-Installing Hardware (ooohhhh it gets me sweaty!)
Seaking a nice little geek girl to geek with....
NOTE: JUST KIDDING (don't get any funny ideas...)
;-)
"Y'all come back Y'a Hear!?!?"
Re:Ummm.. (Score:1)
Example: male friend who always walks around with his head down and not smiling at people. His take: he's just introspective and shy -- why won't people see past that facade and get to know him? Other peoples' take: boy that guy's unfriendly; he doesn't smile and chat and he's so hard to get to know -- perhaps he's not really interested in getting to know me (or whomever); maybe he's stuck up (smart geek who can't be bothered to deal with 'us' peons), etc.
[note: after improving this, by learning to smile, to look at people in the eyes, etc., this friend 1) had several girls ask him out, and 2) got up the nerve to ask a few others out. surprise surprise ...]
If you're afraid of 'uncomfortable social situations', fine, but don't expect to have a 'social' life. Admittedly, a lot of social situations are lame and pointless, but remember that it's your choice to avoid them, and frankly the opinion 'i won't fit in there' or 'they don't want me there' is a BS excuse. It's a BS excuse I've used before and that many of my male geek friends have used.
Sorry, I'm not the bad guy here.
Maybe not, but such a line sounds whiny, and coming across as a defensive and/or self-pitying guy makes you look immature on the one hand, and furthermore, many (most?) girls/women want guys with selfconfidence (not the same as arrogance).
That's just my take, based on my experiences.
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Hard to find? (Score:1)
I knew it (Score:1)
C'est la vie, man. (Score:1)
Chances are pretty good that she'd think about it for a little while.
Girls are like that. They've been trained to crave security, and money is part of that equation.
But to be completely fair, suppose someone offers you 1.0e9 dollars to marry you. I imagine it would inspire most of us to at least think about.
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Bad Timing (Score:2)
Talk about lack of research (Score:2)
"Wanna go to Colonel Sanders?"
"Mmmmm... kernel..."
Re:Talk about lack of research (Score:2)
My question: are the ladies going to go on tours of data centers, development shops, and hardware laboratories? Considering your point, that's where the boys are!
Re:Bad Timing (Score:1)
It goes both ways. (Score:1)
I don't mean that I want to find another over-educated computer wiz - I just want to meet someone who is as driven, creative, and good looking as so many of my male friends, if you get my drift.
I certainly am flattered to be the target of these kinds of events, but I'm not interested in someone who is looking for a wealthy mamma's-boy who is never home and is more knowledgable about his kernel rev than his partner's hopes and dreams.
Give me a medal. =) (Score:1)
Geeks not reproducing is really bad for the human race. The thought of our future world being dominated by blue-collar workers, businessmen, and lawyers because the geeks don't have children is really disturbing. All those years of evolution to bring out intelligence in man will be wasted because intelligence isn't as attractive as confidence (which have an anti-correlation, if anything).
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Kyle R. Rose, MIT LCS
Geek wife anybody? (Score:1)
Re:not this thread again! (Score:1)
net worth of the men targeted. Besides that,
where else on Earth is better suited for
'gold-digging'. Legions of sex-starved,
socially inhibited men with padded wallets.
Now don't get me wrong, I don't honestly
think every geek with a significant other is
the victim of a gold-dig attack! Brains are
'sexy', and there are definitly a large number
physically attractive geeks (both M + F).
However, this stunt stinks like a dorm room
after an all male four day Quake-fest.
"Geek Men" (Score:1)
There are many intelligent men/women out there who can be considered just as "geeky" as computer nerds. They may just be in other fields.
And they will still understand your dedication to work, while opening you up to other aspects of their lives.
I think people are making a mistake if they think programmers are the only partners that could possibly understand their way of lives.
Discovery Channel? (Score:2)
Geekness (Score:1)
If you must have a geek, at least don't restrict yourself to Computer Geeks - alternative forms of geek are just as desirable.
While a Garden Geek may not be impressed when she hears of your clever algorithm, she will understand where you are coming from. It is more important she be able and willing to see your point of view than grok code.
I myself have a wife who's a Garden Geek, Classical Guitar Geek and Art Geek all at the same time. I love her to pieces not because she's a geek, but because she understands. Her being a geek just gave her a headstart.
Re:not this thread again! (Score:1)
Speaking of generalizations, not everyone who lives in the valley has huge stock options. Most people I know make ok money, but have to work 80+ hours per week, don't have health insurance, and pay to much for gas and housing. I paid $1.80 a gallon this morning for gas (ouch), and I've lived in a motel for the past three months, because it's cheaper for me to pay for a motel 2 weeks per month (that I'm there) than it is to rent an apartment!
The ZDNet piece is mis-titled... (Score:1)
Re:Geek wife anybody? (Score:1)
on the floor in the living room so that you have
to be careful going to the couch that you don't
trip on the ethernet cables? That's what my
house is like... and it's all *my* doing.
I'm sure it doesn't make a great impression on
the men that have visited me.
Re:Geek wife anybody? (Score:1)
Re:those poor women (Score:1)
Re:Un, no, actually, I prefer Lexi_the_Linux_girl. (Score:1)
Regarding correlation between intelligence and wealth: rich guys tend to study (in increasing order of brains required) business, law, or medicine. Geek fields (math, CS, engineering, science, linguistics) carry a low social status, and most rich guys wouldn't stoop to that level (major exception: pre-med science majors). Women aren't expected to impress men with their ability to make money, so more women chose less lucrative fields (literature, art, sociology, anthropology, linguistics) because they're genuinely interested in the subject matter. Other women are motivated to demonstrate that they are capable of making it in the high-pay high-prestige fields (business, law, medicine). Fewer women are motivated to show that they can handle the low-prestige fields (CS, engineering), which is one of the reasons there's a shortage of geek women.
Ha! I already got one, you silly Linux k'nigget! (Score:1)
Oh well.
Honestly, I don't think the stereoype applies; I live in the Bay Area, and I know very few "lonely geeks". Most of my friends, natch, are in high tech in one way or another, and most of them do have social lives.
I think the convention will be a bust.
I found my Geek Girl Thrill! (Score:1)
Her latest "appearence" in the comic is here [geekculture.com]. Dig those boots!
Re:Ya know, back in high school, I dated some fab. (Score:1)
Re:And how do these women expect to attract a geek (Score:3)
I mean, you've been slagging it away with code for 18 hours. Do you really want to come home and discuss it?
Personally, I'd prefer to come home, and have a girl who's just happy that I'm back. Not someone who really wants to know the details of why heap corruption is happening on the PPC build of whatever I'm working on.
Life just gets so one-dimensional when you're dating a geek. You're a geek at work, you're a geek at school. Do you have to be an egghead when you come home, too?
I think it's just nice to have someone who reminds you that code is not EVERYTHING. It's nice to have a life that has nothing to do with computers.
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Re:Sex and the single geek (Score:1)
but elementary human mating rituals can be as bewildering to your average geek as sendmail.cf is to a non-geek - often it's just not apparent where to start.
Yeah, I know where to find the bat book if I ever need it. OReilly and Associates doesn't publish a dating manual and I don't trust anyone else to help me with something as finding a potential Mate. You understand of course that the concequenses of being wrong are horrid. Thus I'm single and dateless at 25. Don't want to be that way, but I don't know many girls I accually would consider if I wasn't a geek.
Desperation... (Score:1)
"If you are lonely while you're alone, you are in bad company." - Jean-Paul Sartre
Thoughts on this.. (Score:2)
I guess I have learned some lessons over the last few years. Bear in mind that several of these are from my job-now-near-career of Tech Support (end user).
(1) Work is not always the best, nor the only place to look. As I said, I work tech support, so there aren't many women, and the ones that are here are attached or, well... (not to sound mean..)
(2) Work cannot be your life. You cannot live at work, no matter what the company tells you.
(3) People don't normally bite... much. They, unlike dogs, actually seem to prefer a good conversation.
(4) What it all comes down to... Find a place that you feel comfortable at where people congregate (for me, it's the local Starbucks) and make yourself at home. Chat with strangers, or just the people that work there. I have been hanging out a Starbucks for the better part of a year and I have found things to be quite interesting. All the people that work there know me and will openly chat with me (and a few of them are some intelligent and beautiful women). Many of the regulars know me as well and are not afraid to talk. Bottom line, you have to communicate F2F sometimes.
I'm not saying it works for everyone, but for the cost of coffee, it's worth it.
ROTFL (nt) (Score:1)
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Re:And how do these women expect to attract a geek (Score:1)
It's the appreciation that's the hard part.. Most women I've known tend to consider tech distasteful and something best not spoken of in public.
"Oh yah. Those tech vests are real nice. Fascinating." get me OUTTA this store! I've got database interface wrappers to debug!!
I dream of the day I can find a woman who:
Is that too much to ask?
Re:The real story (Score:1)
Story of my fu??ing life in college...
I dunno, I just think my wiring is just so different, like trying to get a PAL signal on a NTSC screen.. It's also like, how do I get to know someone without looking like some overbearing freak? And every time, every f?ck?ng time I've ever raised the portcullis and lowered the bridge, it's gone horribly wrong! Some people weren't meant to be with other people, I suppose. Or rather, they may be meant to be with crazy people, and not crazy in a good way.
I could go for some flat food...
Re:"Geek Men" (Score:2)
In actuallity, if I was not dating a fellow computer geek, an engineer or mathematician would be just as attractive to me. Maybe even a professor of philosophy - logic, of course.
I find Bertrand Russell's writing very - mmmmmm - stimulating.
I am joking again.
Although geekdom is only one aspect of my life, I am very devoted to my work, and I agree that another intellegent person, be they a programmer, or what ever, would be just as compatible, I am just doubting the man hunrgy women who are seeking the wealthy programmer will have much luck.
There is a certain class of women who work in offices, and consider themselves quite capable on computers although they call tech support to tell them the internet is broken when they get a javascript error on the page when trying to look at www.marthastewart.com - these are the women who I see in that little trip to Silicon Valley.
This type of woman may be physically attractive, or not. Perhaps for the truely superficial, she'd be an ideal trophy wife, some men want that.
I see more men wanting a partner, a mate they can talk to, share ideas, ideals, dreams, and much more.
Perhaps a couple will capture themselves a geek man who likes talking about interior decorating, and does not mind that his girlfriend doesn't understand computers. Even I like to escape from computers completely from time to time.
I just see the vast majority prefering a woman who has more to talk about than dried flowers, rag rolling walls, and dinner at the neighbour's place, and boy didn't their living room look fabulous.
These dependant little sucklings will be decending upon the geek world like vultures, seeking a man to care for them.
Are you ready?
PS... (Score:1)
Just becuase you're a geek, doesn't necessarily mean you need another geek. I perosnally, find that a non-geek helps keep me grounded and from losing touch with reality. Sure, she won't know COPY from FDISK, but if she loves ya, who the hell cares.
Re:I knew it (Score:2)
Re:Lucky bastard... (Score:2)
Just what we need.... (Score:1)
"The men here are every mother's dream. They're stable and well-educated, and they are wealthy. Some of them have millions and millions of dollars and no one to spend it on."
Sorry to be crass but that just pisses me off. Blatant gold digging bullshit. I hsould just go find a real hooker, at least i know what I'm not getting. Guess some guys will buy into this though.
Re:On Gays and Bisexuals in the Valley (Score:1)
Yes, there are more gays and lesbians in the Silicon Valley than in other parts of the US, but not nearly as many as in San Francisco where they outnumber the straight. The majority of men in Silicon Valley are straight men.
I think when you live in an environment that's as fast-paced as Silicon Valley, it makes it pretty hard for a straight couple to raise a family. The cost of living is very high and it's not easy for a couple to make it if both are not working. Check this Mercury News report at http://www.mercurycenter.com/svtech/news/special/w ealth/ [mercurycenter.com] to see how tough it can be . For instance I am the sole breadwinner in my household and my boyfriend is still studying. My pay is enough for a decent house for us, but if we ever wanted to adopt and raise children, it would be a stretch. Straight couples get extra tax breaks that we don't, but even then, they can have a hard time raising a family on single-income. For all we know all those single men probably wouldn't have the time to deal with a family. Unless they left Silicon Valley.
Hmm... geeks with money... (Score:2)
Agreed. Case in point, Bill Gates.
(c'mon, you don't really think his wife is after his BODY do you?
A Solution to geek loneliness that Works (Score:1)
teach her how as though she's a potential geek. She is.
Not all of these attempts will prosper. Most of them, if you honestly believe that anyone can understand computers to the limits of their intelligence, will at least improve these women's affection for computers and understanding of geeks. (Adjectives are in the right order.) A few of them will take root in that familar larval-stage way.
Result: a few more she-geeks; more women who can understand an interest in computers; and almost all of them will now think of geeks as people they can talk with, not people who talk at them. Far more, dare I say, fertile ground for romance.
Caveat: Assume that you won't date this woman; this may be an untrue assumption, but it will probably improve the interaction. (Talking to women only because you hope to sleep with them is emotionally analagous to sleeping with men only in hopes of getting money from them.) You get to date the woman some other
it's a gift economy all round.
good == rich and whipped (Score:1)
"Good Man" tripe.
A "Good Man" is rich enough that the female
will either be able to stop working (or play at
working) while Mr. Right supports her. A "Good
Man" will be interested in Marriage, which is
not always what it's supposed to be, and can
often cause problems in relationships. A "Good
Man" wants to reproduce, despite the fact that there are too many people on the planet as it is.
Even though by all rights, I should fall squarely into the "Good Man" category, I have experienced
real alienation from women; I've got a pretty decent career, and I'm even more attractive than not, but here's the deal:
#1. I do NOT want to be married (a contract between you and the STATE, not between you and your SPOUSE, and therefore a myth)
#2. I do NOT want to become somebody else's means
of support, I want that special somebody to be able to, and want to, take care of herself
#3. I do NOT want children. Having children
is something you do instead of living your own life.
Needless to say, few women find me worth the time
of day when they learn my feelings on those issues.
Re:And how do these women expect to attract a geek (Score:1)
okay, that's my shpeal... take it or not. whatever.
art is not a toy.
late twenties? no problem (Score:1)
Going to clubs dancing is probably the best way to build a social life from zero.
Company Perks? (Score:1)
"...and we'll do your laundry, give you free lunch, and find you a spouse to nag you..."
It's only a matter of time before the large companies start their own internal dating services.
you're right (Score:1)
If you have "millions and millions of dollars" and you aren't even getting laid you have a major, major, problem. If I did I would not touch any of these gold diggers. If I wanted whores I'd go to one of those escort services (there are some that have extremely hot women too); if I wanted love I certainly wouldn't go around flashing money and telling women that I was rich (you'd have to pretend not to be, I think).
Re:Bad Timing (Score:1)
Re:p.s. (Score:2)
You just don't get it. You can't quit your job and geek out all day in style unless your sugar daddy is a milionaire. Proper geeking requires a datacenter with at least 45 computers, 3 different processor architectures and 5 different operating systems. Admittedly there are a few mulitmillionaires around town, but they're all ex microsofties and would object to buying you an UltraSparc - espescially if they knew you planned to run FreeBSD on it. Get yourself a job with a company that has a huge datacenter and then you can roll around naked on a pile of ethernet cables between a Sun E500 and and Alpha GS 60. That's what I do at work - late at night when nobody is looking of course.
--Shoeboy
Re:Gold-digging honeys (Score:1)
And with that kinda attitude.. your right hand will probably be your best friend.
Re:p.s. (Score:2)
--Shoeboy
Re:Talk about lack of research (Score:1)
I am a woman in her early twenties majoring in EE. Now.. there are no other women in my classes... which first is a clear indication that there are significantly less women in the field than men. (which duh we knew).
When you are dating or looking for a date.. you tend to try to find someone with similar likes. For some reason.. a lot of women do not find computers or technology very interesting. That doesnt mean they arent intelligent and cant make it in the field.. but I read an article that stated that most women found the field to be dull and uncreative. (which i disagree with). So.. now if a woman is looking for a man that has similar interests.. she most likely wont seek out a geek (unless she is like me.. heh). So while the men may not be seeking someone similar to them.. the women are..
Regarding a geek in his early 20s.. I believe you have more of a chance then anyone. You are either in college or fresh out of college.. as long as you join different groups.. and explore different interests... Then women can have other ways to relate to you then just on a technical level... and they will find similarities..
Plus.. the right woman always comes along when you arent looking for her..
Re:Lucky bastard... (Score:2)
Oh, and BTW, you shouldn't use goto. It's bad style.
Re:It goes both ways. (Score:1)
I must imagine you are in a difficult place - so many men around you in your workforce, but one wrong move and you could be in a very compromising position.
I think it depends on his situation. Is he out at work? What kind of coworkers does he have? Good coworkers would make all the difference. On a professional note, I would not look for a romantic relationship at work. As the crude saying goes: "Do not dip your pen in the company ink."
Tthere are defintely relationships "out there" for single men and women. I am twenty six and I met my partner four years ago when I least expected it. We worked together on a task force at our university.
My advice, is to be comfortable with, love, and accept yourself. Be open to the possibilities and be willing to take chances. Relationships are often where you least expect to find them.
Re:a Geek makes an Impression (Score:1)
Well, I can't say he doesn't deserve it, well, at least the one or two dicks I know don't deserve to EVER have a girlfriend, or even a boyfriend, if that's what they like. They're complete jerks.
Only one of them is a geek. The other one is gonna be an English teacher. Don't have kids. You were warned.
Some people just don't get with people cuz they're too afraid. They don't love the one they are with, but are afraid to move on, etc.
The concept of being alone terrifies me.
I don't care if my girlfriend is a "guru" or not, as long as she isn't afraid to ask me what a gigabyte is.
Just glad I got someone willing to learn . . .
later
Ladies: where to find 'em (Score:1)
Computer Literacy bookstore in Sunnyvale and San Jose (my favorite real-world store). And... they charge so much for their books (compared to online), you have to have a decent income to even walk in there.
Re:Sex and the single geek (Score:1)
heh. sendmail.cf is bewildering to anyone, period.
Re:Talk about lack of research (Score:1)
I know lots of geeks with successful love lives; the main thing they have in common, other than crossing an elementary clue threshold (oh God, the stories some of my friends could tell you) is that they just know how to get away from the damn monitor on weekends!
The VB thing isn't gonna get you women... (Score:2)
More like something you tell them as late in the relationship as possible ("Well it is nice whether today, andsometimesIcodeinVB, don't you think? Did I mention how great you look?")
You wouldn't put recent bouts with foot warts in a personal add...
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Re:It goes both ways. (Score:2)
I must imagine you are in a difficult place - so many men around you in your workforce, but one wrong move and you could be in a very compromising position.
Hetro, gay supportin' geek,
SirSlud
Save your airfare! (Score:1)
Mind you, Palo Alto probably has pretty good weather, so you're not entirely wasting your vacation.
Dana
Re:Ohh... to Geek (Score:1)
Eew! I'm turned off already! =)
Isn't there a book like that out there somewhere? I think it was called Men use vi, Women use emacs. I saw it in a purchasing circle on amazon.
You can't expect them to come to you (if you .. (Score:2)
I'll tell you one thing
Re:You can't expect them to come to you (if you .. (Score:2)
(if you don't go to them).
I havn't had
I'll tell
Gold-digging honeys (Score:1)
To that I can only say, Fuck all y'all bitches! I'd rather stick with my right hand for all eternity than get with some superficial gold-digging asshole.
Beer recipe: free! #Source
Cold pints: $2 #Product
Re:Gold-digging honeys (Score:1)
I guarantee it will turn away 100% of the golddiggers.
Re:Thoughts on this.. (Score:1)
Re:Thoughts on this.. (Score:1)
Or maybe....... (Score:1)
Re:The real story (Score:1)
assistant for first year computer courses.
Women are outrageously nice to you when they need explanations for simple computer stuff.
True I was getting payed to help people but I would go to extremes like meeting them on my own time to tutor them for free in the hopes that I might be able to actually engage them in conversation after I had explained the 16 op assembly language the course used.
(yes yes, this->desperate == TRUE, now shut up about it already
Anyhow, cutting to the chase it didnt work very well. Really all I wanted was conversation but I guess they just saw me as a facilitator of a good mark.
I guess perhaps im just bitter. I probably smell funny too.
Anyhow quick summary: Hes right dont go down this road it leads nowhere.
-N
Re:I knew it (Score:1)
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Re:On Gays and Bisexuals in the Valley (Score:1)
I can't speak for the valley, but I would imagine that like most places that are affluent and filled with intelligent people you are more likely going to find a higher proportion of out homosexuals than in a random sample taken from the American population.
This isn't to assert that all gays must be intelligent and/or affluent, but instead that a homosexual is more likely to be out and thus visible and countable for the sample.
From my personal experience, I have noted that having a geek boy to go along with me is quite pleasant. Our skills and interests mesh well and understand each other's technofetishism.
We met on a thread on Usenet. How geeky can you get?
Re:And how do these women expect to attract a geek (Score:1)
The Titanic (Score:2)
The "sexually uptight" morals of the Protestant Reformation, most extremely typified by the pioneering demes like Puritans, Quakers, Amish and the like, are not simply neurotic hold-overs from the tribes praised by Tacitus in his Germania -- they are the keys to progress.
Humans are continually striving to return, in the older parts of their souls, to their origins in subsaharan Africa where the three-tier concentric sociosexual circle of alpha males, concubines with children and peripheral beta males, is embedded so deeply.
This is why Margaret Mead, in a conversation I had with her in 1971, told me that the entry of women into the workplace mandated one fundamental compensating change:
An "incest taboo" in the workplace.
Subsequent decades have proven Ms. Mead far too liberal.
The flood of females into middle-management, coupled with the "glass ceiling" against their occupation of the executive suites and board rooms, has undone, within a single generation the painstaking creation of technological civilization's foundation and unleashed the three-tier sociosexual structure of pre-technological primates.
Importation of females won't solve this problem -- it will merely change Silicon Valley from a work camp to yet another urban area destined for a downward slide that will make descent into the so-called "dark ages" look like a picnic -- for this time, there are no pockets of isolation from this decay except, perhaps China.
Re:And how do these women expect to attract a geek (Score:1)
True indeed. Many a witty, brainy young lass turned this geek's heart to butter in his formative cycles. And now, a slightly older, slightly wiser, slightly portly geek can look back at the 9+ years of joy with his then-girlfriend-now-wife-and-mother-of-his-child. She ain't no coder. She ain't no cracker. Her eyes glaze when I talk of Perlish things, and she oh-so-patiently forgives my O'Reilly habit. We have enough geeky things in common to make us happy, and enough differences to keep us sane. My advice for those in search of geeks to love:
Re:On Gays and Bisexuals in the Valley (Score:1)
Stewball
Good men? Good grief. (Score:1)
Stop it now! (Score:1)
Re:I knew it (Score:1)
Then again, maybe your opinion differs. Your signature would seem to suggest as much. :P
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not this thread again! (Score:1)
it's not unheard of, you know. maybe if you went beyond looking for superficial crap like nice asses you would discover someone with substance. no, i am not saying all men do this. i am just saying.
Re:Talk about lack of research (Score:1)
You know, it's funny that you mention dancing. All over the Bay Area, swing and ballroom dancing are going through a huge revival. However, it's couples, by and large, who sign up for the lessons.
"Let him who would move the world first move himself [on the dance floor]"
--Socrates, interpreted somewhat
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those poor women (Score:1)
But I have to admit, every great once in awhile (after I've become frustrated with my job, for example) I do spend a second to ponder the possibility of finding a "sugar daddy". And being that I'm a geekgrrl, I imagine it wouldn't be *too* hard.
C'mon guys, you know you would do it too if it were as easy for you as it is for us.
(before I get flamed....*please* realize that I would never actually seek out someone for their money. I'd lose a lot of respect for myself if I wasn't supporting myself)
-Lisa
Re:Talk about lack of research (Score:2)
The Silicon Valley sucks. It's a yuppie strip-mall-and-suburbs wasteland.
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Patriarchy sux (Score:1)
Re:Lucky bastard... (Score:2)
Sorry for not using proper programming notation in this I'm mostly just tech support with a little script programming.
Re:Talk about lack of research (Score:2)
A solid contradiction? (Score:2)
I'm confused
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