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Adult Children Are Costing Many Parents Their Retirement Savings (cbsnews.com) 570

pgmrdlm shares a report from CBS News: Half of American parents are unable to save as much as they'd like to for retirement, and their grown offspring -- whom they still count as dependents -- are to blame, according to a new Bankrate.com study. While they likely mean well, parents who support children into young adulthood often end up encumbered when they reach retirement age. They can inadvertently hamstring their kids, too.

Seventeen percent of the couples surveyed by Bankrate.com said that they sacrificed their own retirement savings by "a lot" to help their adult children. Another 34 percent said they'd "somewhat" sacrificed their savings plans. Not surprisingly, the lowest earners saved the least. Seventeen percent of couples making less than a combined $50,000 a year and have at least one child who is 18 or older said they were helping pay their adult children's bills but not setting aside any money for retirement.
The study found a generational divide when it comes to perceptions of parents supporting adult children. "Millennials between the ages of 23 and 38 believe they should be supported for longer, and expect some expenses, like student loans, to be covered up to the age of 23," reports CBS News. "Baby boomers, meanwhile, think parents should wean children off their bank accounts sooner across almost every category of expense, including cell phone bills, car payments and travel costs." Millennials and baby boomers both agree that young adults by age 23 should be wholly response for bigger ticket expenses like health insurance.

Economic analyst Mark Hamrick says the 2008 financial crisis, Great Recession and lack of substantial wage growth are to blame for this dynamic. Changing societal norms also come in to play, as many young adults are "opting to pursue higher education, thereby delaying their entries into the workforce," the report says. "And by the time these degree-holders enter the workforce, they're saddled with student debt..."
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Adult Children Are Costing Many Parents Their Retirement Savings

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  • by mentil ( 1748130 ) on Thursday April 25, 2019 @02:04AM (#58487812)

    What a coincidence. Our parents' generation is costing us the entire concept of retirement.
    Job security, pensions, social security solvency...

    • Re: (Score:2, Insightful)

      by Anonymous Coward

      You should work more.

      • by EvilSS ( 557649 )
        This. And harder. So eventually you'll die young and never need to worry about retiring!

        See, complex problems often have simple solutions!
    • Re: (Score:2, Informative)

      by Anonymous Coward

      It's not the older generation.
      It's the ruling caste. Their policies and ideology.
      Wealth is being transferred upwards at a relentless pace by laws and policies designed to achieve just that.

    • Re: (Score:3, Insightful)

      by msauve ( 701917 )
      "Our parents' generation is costing us the entire concept of retirement. Job security, pensions, social security solvency..."

      Bullshit. It obvious that your parents spoiled you and instilled a false sense of entitlement. Those are all externalities, none of which are a birthright. Only you are responsible for you. Your comment amounts to "We're entitled to have our parents support us until someone else does."
      • by AmiMoJo ( 196126 ) on Thursday April 25, 2019 @07:55AM (#58488584) Homepage Journal

        Your logic backs up mentil's complaint. If it's everyone for themselves then we should identify the people we need to take what we want from - our parent's generation. It's not entitlement, it's just the nature of the dog-eat-dog fuck-you-buddy-I-got-mine world your comment is premised on.

      • by thegarbz ( 1787294 ) on Thursday April 25, 2019 @11:10AM (#58489622)

        and instilled a false sense of entitlement.

        Seeing a generation before us live on social debt and having their politicians continuously screw the generation after kind of does make you feel like you're entitled to something more.

        We see politicians who went to school for *free* (as in beer) decide that debt is too high and steadily increase school fees that didn't exist at all when they were in school.
        We see politicians who retire at the ripe old age of 55-60 supporting amendments to raise retirement ages at steady intervals (with a grandfather clause, because you know why have a level playing field for the previous generation).
        That was assuming you can get it at all now after all "defined benefits pensions" were a thing of the previous generation. These days it's up to you to put your money in the stock market and go to church on a Sunday to make sure that it doesn't all evaporate.
        We see a constant wealth gap increase and housing getting ever more expensive while jobs get more and more concentrated in the more expensive places to live.
        We see steady rising cost of transportation, steady inflation, everything is steady, except for protections like minimum wages, or social services.

        You're right though. The previous generation definitely instilled a sense of entitlement. You're just wrong about how and why.

    • by rsilvergun ( 571051 ) on Thursday April 25, 2019 @09:37AM (#58489066)
      this entire story is just a trick. A misdirection. You're being tricked into blaming the older generation (or younger) so that you'll fight with them. Meanwhile the rich elites are laughing all the way to the bank with all the money. You're being manipulated. See it for what it is and don't fall for it. The goal here is to divide the working class against each other so the elite ruling class can take all the money.
  • Short-sighted. (Score:5, Insightful)

    by ledow ( 319597 ) on Thursday April 25, 2019 @02:21AM (#58487834) Homepage

    Well that seems to be very short-sighted of them.

    "I'll pay your college, boy, but when I'm old I'm going to be potless and you'll have to support me through the longest part of my life where I'm unemployed, have no money, and yet require possibly the most amount of care".

    You save up to *stop* your kids getting your debts and burden when you're older, not to give it all to them in their 20's and then be left with nothing.

    • Re: (Score:2, Interesting)

      by Anonymous Coward

      It's ironic, half the people who criticized Trump for his "small loan of $1 million" took out their own "small loan" of $0.3 million so they could do a useless liberal arts bachelor degree.
      Difference is Trump turned his loan into an empire and you turned yours into a worthless bit of paper

    • Re:Short-sighted. (Score:4, Insightful)

      by AmiMoJo ( 196126 ) on Thursday April 25, 2019 @04:08AM (#58488000) Homepage Journal

      Problem is that most people want to have their own place to live and their own kids in their 20s and 30s. Parents naturally want to help.

      Every single person I still talk to from my school days only got on the property ladder with either support from their parents or when they inherited some money/property.

      There's just no getting away from it. Most young people are going to need financial support from the older generations. The worst part is that it creates a situation where anyone with property doesn't want the value to fall and for it to become affordable, because it's their asset for retirement and/or their own kids to inherit.

  • by Anonymous Coward on Thursday April 25, 2019 @02:23AM (#58487836)

    "Millenials" and "Baby Boomers", "Baby Boomers" and "Millenials" - who's missing?

    The ones whose parents didn't cover their adult expenses, and whose children think they should cover theirs, but who you'll never see the media talk about anymore.

    (I honestly think that most journalists these days are in their early 20s, and honestly believe the boomers were the generation before them - they've probably never even heard of Generation X)

    • by JaredOfEuropa ( 526365 ) on Thursday April 25, 2019 @03:43AM (#58487946) Journal
      That's Generation X, isn't it?

      To be fair, my parents (early Boomers) did support me and my brothers through college, directly and indirectly through taxes: in those days student received a modest stipend from the state for up to 6 years, and parents had to supplement that if they could afford it. If not, students would find a job, or they could get a government loan under generous terms. But my parents supported us over and above that, and the only time I had to work during my college days was to get some extra drinking money or for ridiculous purposes like a car (very few students here had one, and no one really needed one).

      Our millennials have some cause to complain: the college stipend has been turned into a loan as well, which means most students graduate with a decidedly unhealthy debt right out of the gate. When this change was made, the minister insisted that this was a special loan that in no way or form would affect your credit rating or your ability to get a mortgage... and the banks followed up by saying that of course they will treat this like any other loan. So our graduates are not likely to qualify for social rental housing (besides, the waiting list for those is easily 10 years), and they have to rent on the open market at insane prices, as they will not be able to get a mortgage for the next couple decades. This is the reason so many of them opt to stay at home with their parents will into adulthood.
  • by Sique ( 173459 ) on Thursday April 25, 2019 @02:39AM (#58487854) Homepage
    In 1952, a German economist called Gerhard Mackenroth already knew: From a macro-economic point of view there are no retirement savings:

    The simple and clear statement is that all social expenditure must always be covered by the national income of the current period. There is no other source and there has never been another source from which social expenditure could flow, there is no accumulation from period to period, no 'saving' in the private sense, there is simply nothing but the current national income as a source for the social effort [...] So capital accumulation and pay as you go are not essentially different in substance. Economically, there is always only one levy system.

    Your retirement savings are nothing else than an entitlement to get a share of the wealth that is generated when you are retired. For the dividend on the shares you own, for the interest paid on your bonds, someone else has to work and be productive in the period you get your payments. And whenever the systems to generate wealth or the wealth distribution systems change fundamentally or is in demise, your retirement savings are worth nothing. Each type of money (be it fiat money or gold based money or whatever) is only worth so much as you can buy at the time you want to spend it.

    Each time period, there is a fight going on how the wealth generated should be distributed. Young people not starting to work because they have to finish their education first is just another way to redistribute wealth away from the older generation, and saddling young people with debts is a way to distribute it back to the older generation who hold the bonds and get interest on them when young people are paying off their debts.

    • If your retirement savings are outside your country, then this isn't true, right?

      For instance, I'm from Europe. I save for early retirement and although it's partially in European government bonds, there's other parts gold and global stock market.

      • by Sique ( 173459 )
        Then someone in other parts of the world has to work for your retirement pay. The principle stays the same: Whenever you get money without working for it immediately before, someone else does the work, and you get it by some wealth redistibution system, be it interest, dividend or government handouts.
      • Indeed, but you play a dangerous game. For example, Japan traded lots of cars and electronics through the 80s/90s for a whole lot of US treasury bonds (claims on future taxpayers). Great idea for an ageing country with poor demographics right? Yet for the last decade the US has been running negative real interest rates, and buying up those same treasuries with printed money which you either sit on (and lose even more value) or dump into your favourite asset bubble to be destroyed at a later date.

        Iceland bas

    • by JaredOfEuropa ( 526365 ) on Thursday April 25, 2019 @04:04AM (#58487992) Journal

      Your retirement savings are nothing else than an entitlement to get a share of the wealth that is generated when you are retired.

      The difference is in how you earn that entitlement and how it is financed. As for the idea that savings might suddenly be worthless, that's a risk which can be managed to some degree. When it can't, don't think for a second that it will not affect the ability of the economy to fund pay-as-you-go schemes as well.

      Is your pension simply given to you in exchange for having paid a retirement tax during your working years? That's fine if the ratio of dependents vs. people paying into the system stays more or less constant. But if the demographic groups vary greatly in size, you may end up with a large group who pay very little to cover the relatively small group preceding them into retirement, while the next generation has to pay double to cover costs when that large group retires. That is exactly what is happening here with the Dutch state pension: the 'boomers paid very little into it, but now that they are retiring, costs are getting out of control.

      In contrast, Dutch private pensions* consist of money saved up, with entitlements more or less depending on how much you paid into it (less so for older pensions with a guaranteed payout, more so for modern pensions). With the 'boomers set to retire, private pension funds are sitting on over a trillion euros to cover these, and despite some issues with overly generous entitlements for older policies, that pile of money means that the large group of 'boomers can retire without placing an overly large burden of those currently paying taxes and into the pension funds.

      *) In NL, pretty much everyone (including the former Queen) receives a state pension of around €1100. Most working people are member of a pension fund who increase that amount to around 70% of their average wage, and they may have bought additional policies for extra money or early retirement.

      • by monkeyxpress ( 4016725 ) on Thursday April 25, 2019 @05:31AM (#58488136)

        ...that pile of money...

        There is no pile of money. The numbers in your investment account are nothing more than relative claims on economic output of future generations (as the OP explains) vis-a-vis other savers. If the total 'savings' in the country are EUR 1 trillion and you have 1% of that in your savings account (lucky you), you will nominally expect to be able to claim 1% of the rentier income pool when you retire. The actual EUR amount you'll get paid will depend on the size of that rentier stream at the time (student loans, company profits, real estate rents) and has very little to do with the absolute value of the number in your account.

        If the rentier stream cannot support all claims to it, then you will quickly discover that the value of your investment has repriced at a lower value. If banks/govts attempt to fill the gap using QE or debt acceleration, then you will quickly find that inflation destroys the value of your income stream. Either way, once retired folks start to withdraw their money piles enmass, they will quickly discover that the big numbers are a fraud and the real economy that will actually support them has been left to rot by malinvesment in shiny asset bubbles rather than real productivity growth (training, infrastructure etc).

        Of course by then the bankers who set all this ponzi schem up and the politicians who endorsed it will be long gone.

        • by msauve ( 701917 )
          "The numbers in your investment account are nothing more than relative claims on economic output of future generations "

          Oh, bullshit. To claim that is to deny that capital exists.
          • by tomhath ( 637240 ) on Thursday April 25, 2019 @08:20AM (#58488710)

            To claim that is to deny that capital exists.

            Not quite. His claim is that capital is only worth what you can get in exchange for it. If the economy completely collapses and all wealth is wiped out your capital is gone.

            Of course that's true, but it's not a good reason to avoid saving for retirement because the odds are very, very good that your capital will indeed have value in the future.

        • If the total 'savings' in the country are EUR 1 trillion and you have 1% of that in your savings account (lucky you), you will nominally expect to be able to claim 1% of the rentier income pool when you retire

          No, you will expect to claim 1% of the principal, which consists of the money you have paid into the pool plus the interest your share has accrued over its lifetime. Of course you don't get it as a lump sum; your monthly payout consists of a little bit of that principal plus interest earned on the remaining share of the principal. The way Dutch pension funds figure out payments is rather more complex, but it depends for a large part on your entitlement share rather than only the current income of the fund.

      • by AmiMoJo ( 196126 )

        Private pensions only work if people can afford to pay significant amounts in to them. If housing and the cost of living are very high relative to wages, those private schemes don't get enough put into them and the system doesn't work. You still end up with pensioner poverty.

        That's what the UK is headed for. Endless warnings that people are not putting enough into pensions, but little is done to actually allow people to contribute more.

    • That statement is true but also misleading. By saving (i.e. investing) instead of consuming, resources in society are redirected and there will be returns on those investments later on.

    • by tomhath ( 637240 )

      In 1952, a German economist called Gerhard Mackenroth...

      He wasn't an economist. He was a psychologist and member of the Nazi party. His theories of economics are suspect at best.

  • by RyanFenton ( 230700 ) on Thursday April 25, 2019 @02:43AM (#58487860)

    Banks have an absurd number of properties they're still waiting to sell from the last real estate crash.

    They can't maximize that income unless there's more demand for housing purchases and loans connected to those.

    In the meantime, they can't rent out a sufficient number of them - and having them vacant is losing them ALL their lowball investments, since a house vacant tends to fall randomly to a lot of different things.

    So - a report shows up about essentially shaming more folks into pressuring others into making giant life-staking decisions based on that shame.

    I'd take that with a healthy dose of skepticism, as presented.

    Ryan Fenton

  • What about the parents who think their children in their 30s should support them, even if it means sacrificing any hope of saving for retirement, which will be necessary since those children are definitely not ever inheriting anything from those penniless parents?

  • U wont like it though... :|
  • It's 2019. Therefore to be called a 'Millennial' you have to be born after 2000 and are probably a child of the X generation.

    • by Etcetera ( 14711 )

      It's 2019. Therefore to be called a 'Millennial' you have to be born after 2000 and are probably a child of the X generation.

      The term Millennial is really too broad to cover the cultural situation "on the ground" IMO. I'm one of those borderline Xennials to begin with, but there was a *huge* delta between the incoming "Generation Y" and what we'd started to call the "Digital Natives" that came after (but before Gen Z now).

      37 year olds and 29 year olds (as of 2019) are really, really different people.

  • Health Insurance? Student loans? What are these things? Most of the west would like to know.

    Jokes aside I think they should help, but only help in a easy / general case. a) a loan with low interest but one that still needs to be paid back. b) combined family health insurance for some added discounts (I assume these exist, I wasn't joking when I asked above what health insurance looks like for a 23 year old). But the easiest one is: accommodation. As "lame" as it may look for a young adult to live with their

  • by melted ( 227442 ) on Thursday April 25, 2019 @05:05AM (#58488078) Homepage

    And parents are fucking their children up by supporting them like that. Instead of building a career and developing the critical "provider" skills, 30-year old "kids" sit on their parents' necks, completely unable to fend for themselves and salivate at the thought of "socialism" even though they don't fully understand what it is.

    At 21 my parents had _me_ already. Nobody supported them. I support them now, when they let me, which they mostly don't. When I was in college the "support" was very, very slim as well, so I worked to support myself. There were days when I didn't have any money and had to eat eggs and potatoes - the two cheapest foods available. I can cook up a mean omelet even now.

    10 years after that I was pulling down $100K. 20 years after that - half a million dollars a year. Compare this to my brother-in-law: 50 years old, freeloaded on his mom's dime his entire life. Mom has retired a couple of years ago. BIL is fucked beyond belief: no money, no job (mom can no longer hook him up with a decent one), no skills, wife (who can provide for herself) left with another dude. And there's really no way out of his predicament at that age which does not imply a dramatically lower standard of living.

    • by pnutjam ( 523990 )
      You realize a $500k income is top 1% anywhere. Actually, anything over $300k.

      You might not think your incredibly lucky, but there are 99 (and some fraction) of people who do.
  • I don't get the comments hating on the boomers. Every generation faces its own set of problems. It's easy to blame others, but what millennials (or any one else, really) need to do is face up to the challenges of their generation.

    Burdened with student loans? Yes, the loan program is stupid, but...why did they have to go to that big name college, instead of the local community college? The education is arguably better at the latter. Why major in art history, or dance, or XYZ studies when they know there aren

  • by Qbertino ( 265505 ) <moiraNO@SPAMmodparlor.com> on Thursday April 25, 2019 @06:42AM (#58488336)

    Big difference.

    My mom kicked me out at the age of 19. Well done. I did performing arts with frugal but essential free federal support for five years (this is Germany in case you're wondering how that happend). My mom supported me until I was 25 and then stopped. If you do arts, you will have inner fulfilment like no one else but you will most certainly live just above the poverty line most of your life. And maybe get one of those rare chances of a breakthrough. My decade or so of arts still has impact on my adult life in my late 40ies but I wouldn't want to miss it. I'm closing in on 50 and ride the bike, use PT and live in a single room appartment. Cult of less. I work part-time as a web developer and consultant, have truckloads of chilltime, excersize and eat healthy. The flip side is that I only get to do budget vacations and won't be all that richer when I'm old.
    It was my choice and my deal, no complaints. I actually see a lot of folks my age envying me for going down that lane.

    A very good counter-example is my daughter. She's doing medicine. 12+ hours per day learning and studying. A schedule I could only dream to handle. She does more in 2 months than a regular person in 2 years. I know I will have to support her big time for the next decade or so. That's life but she's doing medicine - something really really useful - and probably will rake in six figures when I move into retirement. Her life will very rarely be as chill as mine, but I will shell out any expense needed to get her through with the thing she wants to do. She's my sweetheart and if she choses the tought path she deserves respect for that and any support she can get. And I also somehow trust that her sparing 200 Euros per month for her old dad will sometime in the future be absolutely no problem for her.

    Conclusion: How family members support each other should take into account what their plans are and what critical mass of resource accumulation they can optain with their occupation.

    Wanna do arts? Go ahead. You'll get some allowance but you won't lazy out on your parents indefinitely. Doing tough shit like medicine or hardcore engineering? Yeah, sure you'll get extra cash extra long to get you through to your degree - that's pretty much self-understood IMHO. That's how things should work out. Just don't be a whiny pussy and expect the world to support a cushy lifestyle just because you chose to go to college.

    My 2 eurocents.

  • I blame the parents. No one is forcing them to feed, clothe and house their 30 year olds. Giving them money breeds dependence. Just the other day my millennial daughter told me how I was still responsible for her at age 26. I told her that was bullshit. She said sarcastically "what, you think it's a contract that just expires the minute I turn 18?". I said "yep" and hung up the phone. Feeding the entitled generation only makes things worse.
  • Not my kids (Score:5, Insightful)

    by johnlcallaway ( 165670 ) on Thursday April 25, 2019 @07:21AM (#58488472)

    I raised my kids as my parents raised me, to be independent and confident. I would have been too embarrassed to ever ask my parents for help once I became an adult. and I forced myself to not take the easy way out and find solutions. That doesn't mean I didn't ask for advice, and my kids have asked for my advice many times.

    The 'entitled' kids in the article are the result of helicopter parents who want to hover over their kids and protect them, instead of preparing them to live on their own. Parents who have no respect for their children's skills or capabilities and think they have to be taken care of instead of watched over.

    And the BS about millennials 'expecting' to be supported, their parents did that too. My son moved out as soon as he could and spent 10 years traveling this country doing odd jobs. He only asked for money once, when he broke his glasses in St. Louis and didn't have the money to get back to his friends. My daughter lived with me until she got married with the understanding that she either went to college or she worked. But, to be fair, she was raised with a good work ethic and not given anything, she had to earn it herself. So getting her to find a job wasn't a problem. They are both in their 30s now and living productive lives without any government or parental financial support. And have done so their entire adult lives.

    I also didn't have much of a retirement account until my kids got out of the house. But, in the years since, I've managed to squirrel away enough that I can support myself without Social Security if I have to. It's amazing how much money you can save when you reduce your debt and live within your means. When I bought both of my houses, the banks told me I could afford far more expensive homes than I bought. But I choose to do a budget and buy the home I could actually afford. The last house I bought has a 30-year mortgage, but I'll be able to pay it off in 10 years, or 7 years from now. By the time I retire, I'll be 100% debt free. Or I won't retire. That has to be earned too, it's not a right. No one is ever entitled to stop working unless they can afford to.

    The only people to blame for this debacle with their finances are the parents who made poor life and financial choices raising their kids. Who tried to be their friends instead of their parents. Who gave them things instead of making them earn them. And yes, I have made plenty of poor life and financial choices myself. Fortunately, in the long run, I made more good ones than bad ones.

    To future and new parents, there will be plenty of time after your kids become adults to be their friends. Suck it up and raise them so they can move out on their own and teach them the value of earning things instead of having them given to them.

    It's OK to tell your kids 'because I said so'.

  • Each generation used to take care of their own. However we now have generational transfers in both directions. The current working generation will be paying off the retirement of previous ones, and the education cost of the future.

    The cost of raising a child is estimated to be over $200,000: https://www.thestreet.com/pers... [thestreet.com] . We love our children, and gladly pay the costs. Nevertheless the amounts are too high.

    Similarly, they currently take about 14% of paychecks (half from employer half from employee) to

    • Social Security in the USA has actually always run that way and was planned that way from the start. Historically Social Security has run at a surplus but that is only possible with its design so long as there are many more workers than retirees. With the Baby Boomers retiring and them living longer than Social Security was initially planned for we're going to hit a point in the next few decades where the incoming money won't cover the outgoing. So at the worst benefits will get cut back to match what's com

  • by BrendaEM ( 871664 ) on Thursday April 25, 2019 @10:51AM (#58489478) Homepage
    In America, one person used to be able to work and feed a whole family. Now, the combined resources of an adult family have a rough going.

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